Divorcing parents in Florida may be concerned about how their children may be affected by their break-up. So much so that they may even forego a divorce to spare the kids any emotional pain. The fact is, all children are different, so it is difficult to predict how they will react to a divorce (or a breakup if the parents were never married).

Divorcing couples may say that they want to do what's best for their children, but they often forget that being a good role model is the foundation of good parenting. This is critical because kids may not understand the concept of divorce, but they certainly can pick up on the emotions of people around them and mimic the stresses they exhibit. Kids around bickering parents may also be argumentative and confrontational. Children cared for by depressed parents may become lethargic themselves. They may become less interested in playing, and may also refuse to eat.

With that said, eliminating conflict should be the highest priority in a divorce. It may be easier said than done when you are really angry at your spouse, but acting like grown-ups and communicating civilly goes a long way. It will make your transition easier and show your children how to deal with conflict in the future.

One thing to remember is that divorce is not easy. It is an emotionally charged event that can present substantial challenges. It's okay to seek help from family, friends, a licensed therapist or even a clergy member. After all, you have to take care of yourself before you can be a good parent.

Source: Seattle Times "Ask Dr. Dad: Don't Divorce Your Baby," Armin Brott, January 19, 2012